Can Love and Possessiveness be mutually exclusive?

Does Love and marriage give you right to control other person's freedom of thought and freedom of expression? Does marrying someone require you to forfeit for life your free will? Does the power someone gives us because they love us so much make us so conceited that we feel that we can (or rather need) to control other person's thoughts too?

 

Wasn't this very quality that attracted me in the first place – the way he can connect to other people so easily & effortlessly, his strong instincts that can within minutes of meeting someone can form a lasting bond, his free approach to everything around, his good instincts to help and cheer everyone he touches? So when did this conceited thought crept into me that now he is “married” to me – so for life he can only care like that only for “Me” (amongst females)?????? Can my thoughts become uglier than this? Who I am to control his thoughts and his instinctive behaviors and most important Why should I? It is something good he is doing – helping others. When has the gender of who is being helped become such an issue???????? I

 I for me who strongly believe that gender/race/religion don't change the person and humanity is much above everything. Can I get more hypocrite than this????????

 

Yesterday was a big wake up call for me. For me to take stock of kind of person I am becoming. I can't control such thoughts but I very well control my reaction. Why I am feeling bad? Since when I have become so shallow a person that I have started thinking I “should” OWN a person – his thoughts, his kindness, and his expressions. For God's sake he is not doing anything bad or illegal that I feel this is my moral responsibility for his own good. He is just being HIMSELF – the person I fell in love with!!!!!!!!!!

Sent on my BlackBerry® from Vodafone