Destiny · Life

How to………………….

How can you console someone who comes to know that his parent is diagnosed with life threatening disease???????????? What else can you tell that person except to be strong and letting him know that you are praying for him?

With the pain of tragedy so fresh in my life, I can feel the pain the person is going through, but at the same time feel so helpless…. knowing you really can’t extend any comforting words, can’t really ease that pain and can’t really help…………..

Just praying for speedy recovery of Ashish’s father!

Life · Love · Memories

If Tomorrow Never Comes

If I knew it would be the last time that I’d see you fall asleep,
I would tuck you in more tightly and pray the Lord, your soul to keep.
If I knew it would be the last time that I see you walk out the door,

I would give you a hug and kiss and call you back for one more.
If I knew it would be the last time I’d hear your voice lifted up in praise,

I would video tape each action and word, so I could play them back day after day.
If I knew it would be the last time,

I could spare an extra minute or twoto stop and say “I love you,” instead of assuming, you would KNOW I do.
If I knew it would be the last time I would be there to share your day,

well, I’m sure you’ll have so many more, so I can let just this one slip away.
For surely there’s always tomorrow to make up for an oversight,

and we always get a second chance to make everything right.
There will always be another day to say our “I love you’s”,

And certainly there’s another chance to say our “Anything I can do’s?”
But just in case I might be wrong and today is all I get,

I’d like to say how much I love you and I hope we never forget,
Tomorrow is not promised to anyone, young or old alike,
And today may be the last chance you get to hold your loved one tight.

So if you’re waiting for tomorrow, why not do it today? For if tomorrow never comes, you’ll surely regret the day, that you didn’t take that extra time for a smile, a hug, or a kiss and you were too busy to grant someone, what turned out to be their one last wish.
So hold your loved ones close today, whisper in their ear, Tell them how much you love them and that you’ll always hold them dear,
Take time to say “I’m sorry,” “please forgive me,” “thank you” or “it’s okay”. And if tomorrow never comes, you’ll have no regrets about today.

Six months have passed since I lost my mother-in-law and I have so many regrets………. She jst left without saying good bye or giving us chance to tell us what she meant to us. Had I known I had so little time with her……….. There were so many things left unsaid, so many things to learn from her…… because i always though I have all the time in world………………..

Life

Soul agreement and Soul Contracts – Honoring Our Soul Relationships

Yesterday I read this b’ful article and made so much sense to me.Below is the excerpt from the article (i will follow up with my interpretation in next post) :

“Soul Attractions”
One of the aspects of our life that is commonly affected most by change in perspective is our relationship to others. Rather than basing our relationships primarily on biological family connections or human personality attractions, we tend to be drawn to those with whom we have significant soul connections from past lifetimes, or from mutual experiences within other realms.
Oftentimes, we find that these “soul attractions” seem to be in conflict with our human life situation. For example, if we are married and we unexpectedly meet someone of the opposite sex with whom we sense a deep soul connection, and with whom we experience deep feeling of love, it quite likely will bring up human emotional issues, such as jealousy and insecurity, in our relationship with our spouse.
Or perhaps we may meet someone of the same sex with whom we may have shared deep connections in past lifetimes, and find ourselves confused by the depth of our love for such a person. Since we don’t always incarnate lifetime after lifetime in a body of the same sex, our soul connections tend to blur the lines of sexual orientation and sexual feelings.
Before we incarnate, either through the natural birth process or as a “walk-in,” we develop a life plan that will enable us to have human experiences which will assist our soul’s evolution. Within the context of this plan, we make agreements with other souls who will play important roles in our forthcoming life experience. After incarnation, our respective souls choreograph life events such that we will come into contact with each other at the appropriate time.

Finding a “Soul Agreement
There are at least three primary reasons as to why we might choose to establish such a “soul agreement” with another soul. We may have been together in a past lifetime, and may have acted toward each other in a manner that was inappropriate. Consequently, there may be unbalanced residual emotional energies which need to be worked out and brought into balance in the context of human life experience. Such soul agreements are often referred to as “karmic” soul agreements.
Normally, our soul purpose cannot be accomplished solely by ourselves. Rather, it usually requires a “team.” So we typically establish soul agreements with others of our team, who, when we later meet up with them in human life, will work together with us in the accomplishment of our mutual soul mission.
When two souls who have deep soul connections with each other meet in human life, it creates an energetic “resonance” which helps to awaken a particular facet within each other’s soul essence. So, we may establish a soul agreement with someone in order to awaken, and bring into human expression a particular facet of our soul which up to that point in time may have been dormant.
Sometime this awakening process can take place virtually in an instant, by exchanging “light codes” through the eyes, or sometimes it may require more time, through exchanges of the heart. How do we know whether or not we have a soul agreement with a particular person? There are several clues.
First, there is often an unexplainable feeling of familiarity when we look into each other’s eyes. If the soul connection is especially deep, and if it involves a particularly significant soul agreement, there is usually a “freeze-frame” memory of the first moment we met that person.
In other words, as we later reflect back upon the first time we met a particular person, we may retain a clear “picture” in our mind of all of the circumstances of that moment where we physically were in respect to the other person, who else was present, and various other details of that first meeting.
Lastly, if someone keeps reappearing in our life, for no explainable reason, it is quite possible that we have a soul agreement with them.

Living Life with an Open Heart
In order to move into the fullness of our soul’s purpose, it is essential that we honor our soul agreements, at least the ones that are of the greatest significance. This implies that we must live life with an open heart, and that we be alert to the possible significance of each new person who comes into our life.
It also is important that, when we first meet someone, we look beyond the physical and personality aspects of the person, and tune into the essence of their soul. To do this, we must be willing to look deeply into each other’s eyes, and allow the natural energies to flow.

Finally, it is important that we create enough space within our existing relationships so that new people can come into our life in a meaningful way. When we first meet someone with whom we feel a significant connection, we are seldom able to perceive the full significance of that person in relationship to our life during our initial encounter. It often requires sharing time together, mutually exploring respective feelings and perceptions, before the deeper purpose reveals itself.

The concept of soul agreements, and their importance to our life, is relatively new territory for our human experience. We have much yet to learn especially in regard to integrating soul relationships into the context of our human lives.

As is the case in exploring any new territory, there are no “rights” or “wrongs,” there is only learning through experience. But isn’t that what life is all about? ?

Life

Living without Expectations

I generally make this statement – “I have no expectations from people around me”. and I guess I make this statement with lot of conviction – something I think I really have cultivated in me. Just today we friends were discussing this topic and Harpal commented – “Expect? It is being human. Expectation from any relationship is natural and is one of the basic instincts”

Can we be anytime truly free from expectations from everything around us? A deeper look around things and that is true, I have expectations from everything and everyone around me – my parents, siblings, husband, colleagues, teammates, myself and scary as it is even from inanimate things around me. Doesn’t I expect my stapler to work every time I use it, my phone to ring when somebody calls me, my car to start when I turn in the key and my refrigerator to cool the things I put inside it. I do expect my body to tell me when I am thirsty, hungry or cold. I expect my parents to love me to miss me and my mom to make yummy aloo parantas every time I visit them. I expect my employer to pay me regularly, my colleagues to show up on the weekly team meetings and to reply to the emails I send them. I do expect ………………

So are we ever free from expectations from people, things….. I guess never, but what I can do is to control my reaction when things or people do not react as per my expectations. Do I feel hurt or can I rationalise and accept it? Do I appreciate when people give me their time and help when I need it or I just take it for granted as if it was my right? I think things tend to get ugly when I fail to acknowledge and appreciate the good deeds of people (b’coz I simply expected them to behave in that manner) or when I react badly when they respond in different way (the one I had not expected). I have option to scream at stapler and throw it out in frustration or simply get a new one.

I can also control the extent of my expectations. I can control my expectations from people to be always there when I need them (let me face it – people do have life of their own) and to be genuinely grateful and appreciative when they do take time out to do something for me. Recently on my trip back to India on a family tragedy, my cousins and their wives were waiting for me at the airport – middle of night and all of them had to go to work tomorrow. I was genuinely grateful and appreciative of their gesture. Would I have reacted same had I expected them to be there? I think when I start expecting from people I start taking them for granted. I fail to appreciate them and then when they are sometime busy to react in manner I want them to I – become angry and hurt.

Well that is what I am trying to learn – to control my reactions and my expectations. But all said and done I still expect my stapler to work, my phone to ring…………………… 🙂

Life

There is no secret ingredient. You are!

“There is no secret ingredient in my noodle soup” says Mr. Ping to Po in the movie Kung Fu Panda.

Things become special, he explains, because people believe them to be special.
Realizing that this truth is the very point of the Dragon Scroll, that the power promised is already inside him, Po rushes off to help Shifu. The movie is a story about trusting yourself, finding your place in a world that seems to be against you and realising that Life is what you make of it.
So maybe one of these days I will also discover the secret ingredient within myself to be more patient, more loving , non-judgemental and a better human being.

Life

Drop the Baggage – Travel Light

And by that I don’t mean packing for actual travelling – in that field I am a total failure. No matter how hard I try to pack light, I normally end up carrying too much stuff 🙂

Well I am talking about travelling light in this life. About carrying the baggage of bias, prejudices, hurt and bitterness . My continuous effort has been to shed this baggage off. This baggage becomes so heavy that during the journey of life instead of enjoying the surroundings and the trip, we tend to be bogged down by the its weight only. We keep on trying to balance this weight and miss out on the beautiful moments that pass us by.

To quote Richard Bach – “Every person, all the events of your life are there because you have drawn them there. What you choose to do with them is up to you.”

So when I am the one who had made a conscious choice to allow each and every experience in my life, how can I be bitter to anyone else? How can I nurture hurt or resentment against somebody else? If I accept each and every choice I had made – right or wrong and take total responsibility of it – I don’t need to blame anyone else for being bad or mean to me. Am I not the one who sought that person to teach me that experience?

Long ago I read somewhere – that if you carry hard feelings for somebody you start creating ‘karmic debt” cycle. Not only you commit your own self into repaying the debt , but also that person. How foolish is that of me. I know if a person/event has hurt me , do I want to be associated with him in next lifetime again? Just to get the thrill of watching him pay the debt???? Isn’t that weird? Well If you think like me, I won’t like to get involved in that person/event again now or ever!!!!!!!!! So what is the way out? Stop this karmic cycle right now. Just forgive that person and banish all hard feelings. Believe me , it is really that easy. If you say to yourself and believe that whatever the person did to you was because you allowed it – it becomes so easy. Just take responsibility of all the choices you made in life.

I am not preaching what I read in some book, but what I have experienced. I have come to stage in life where when I look back, I don’t see any pain. What I see is bundle of experiences – both good and bad – which helped me becoming the person I am right now. And I thank each and every person for teaching me those valuable lessons. Only through carelessness of somebody, I learnt how to be careful with the important things in life, only with failed relationships I learnt to treasure the relationships, only through rudeness I learnt how to be polite with everyone, only through injustice I learnt to be just………………..

These are not shallow words. I live by them. I really feel so light and if somebody asks me about any bitter experience in life — I simply say I don’t remember. And its truth, I look back and don’t see any bitterness.

Destiny · Life

When you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it

“Everyone, when they are young, knows what their destiny is. At that point in their lives, everything is clear and everything is possible. They are not afraid to dream, and to yearn for everything they would like to see happen to them in their lives. But, as time passes, a mysterious force begins to convince them that it will be impossible for them to realize their destiny.”

“It’s a force that appears to be negative, but actually shows you how to realize your destiny. It prepares your spirit and your will, because there is one great truth on this planet: whoever you are, or whatever it is that you do, when you really want something, it’s because that desire originated in the soul of the universe. It’s your mission on earth.” “

“The Soul of the World is nourished by people’s happiness. And also by unhappiness, envy, and jealousy. To realize one’s destiny is a person’s only real obligation. All things are one. And, when you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.”

Paulo Coelho
The Alchemist
pgs. 22-23.
Life · Memories

Things that change my mood for the better

  • Relaxing with my head in my mom’s lap.
  • Harpal’s warm comforting embrace.
  • Rainy day, book in hand and cosy bed covers.
  • Monsoon showers and drenching in them.
  • Playing with my niece and nephews.
  • Family gatherings, late night out with cousins playing “dumb charades” and remembering childhood pranks.
  • Winter sunny afternoons in my garden with a novel in hand.
  • Univ days – sitting in canteen and gulping tea and Maggi noodles.
  • Hot oil hair message from mom.
  • Henna on my hands and its fragrance.