People

Beauty and Ugliness – sides of same coin????

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Isn’t it strange that each of us has so much beauty & so much ugliness co-existing in our soul ………..

I really find it difficult to come in terms with the fact that the same person who is so sweet to me and would go to any extent to help me out could be so mean & ugly to some other person. And how am I suppose to react, when other person is recounting the (true) ugly interactions he/she had with person , while I have seen just the most loving & sweetest side of their nature?

Why do we allow the circumstances to influence so much that we react in totally different manner? Why do we allow our behavior/reactions to be influenced by the outside interactions rather than being defined by the person we really are?

Insight · Life · Love · People

Love YOURSELF

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“The most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you find someone to love the you YOU love, well, that’s just fabulous.”
The last statement by Carrie Bradshaw in the final season of Sex & City
Notes To Myself(24/09/08) inspired this post.

Before I open myself to accept love from others, I need to accept myself as I am and love and respect myself for being “me”. If I hate myself, how would I ever be able to accept that somebody else loves me? When I have low self esteem, I am either skeptical about other people’s interest in me or get flattered by it – both wrong reasons for getting into any relationship which is doomed from start. So before I expect people to love me for what I am , I need to know, understand and love the person I am. Self progress and improvements can only happen if I know who I am and what I want myself to be. If I change myself as per other’s expectations, eventually I will find myself to be stranger in my own body & soul….

Loving YOU doesn’t mean falling in love with only your physical beauty or your material success in life. It is about appreciating yourself and about accepting the person YOU ARE and the values YOU’VE chosen. Become conscious of your values, on your self esteem. Find out how much YOU love YOURSELF. Work on that instead of trying to please others. When you define the person you truly want to be, not based on what others expect, you can work on developing a real sense of self. When you have a loving relationship with yourself, and value who you are as a unique individual who’s worthy of love and happiness, it’s harder to settle in a relationship with somebody who isn’t right for you.

Destiny · Life

How to………………….

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How can you console someone who comes to know that his parent is diagnosed with life threatening disease???????????? What else can you tell that person except to be strong and letting him know that you are praying for him?

With the pain of tragedy so fresh in my life, I can feel the pain the person is going through, but at the same time feel so helpless…. knowing you really can’t extend any comforting words, can’t really ease that pain and can’t really help…………..

Just praying for speedy recovery of Ashish’s father!

Life · Love · Memories

If Tomorrow Never Comes

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If I knew it would be the last time that I’d see you fall asleep,
I would tuck you in more tightly and pray the Lord, your soul to keep.
If I knew it would be the last time that I see you walk out the door,
I would give you a hug and kiss and call you back for one more.
If I knew it would be the last time I’d hear your voice lifted up in praise,
I would video tape each action and word, so I could play them back day after day.
If I knew it would be the last time,
I could spare an extra minute or twoto stop and say “I love you,” instead of assuming, you would KNOW I do.
If I knew it would be the last time I would be there to share your day,
well, I’m sure you’ll have so many more, so I can let just this one slip away.
For surely there’s always tomorrow to make up for an oversight,
and we always get a second chance to make everything right.
There will always be another day to say our “I love you’s”,
And certainly there’s another chance to say our “Anything I can do’s?”
But just in case I might be wrong and today is all I get,
I’d like to say how much I love you and I hope we never forget,
Tomorrow is not promised to anyone, young or old alike,
And today may be the last chance you get to hold your loved one tight.

So if you’re waiting for tomorrow, why not do it today? For if tomorrow never comes, you’ll surely regret the day, that you didn’t take that extra time for a smile, a hug, or a kiss and you were too busy to grant someone, what turned out to be their one last wish.
So hold your loved ones close today, whisper in their ear, Tell them how much you love them and that you’ll always hold them dear,
Take time to say “I’m sorry,” “please forgive me,” “thank you” or “it’s okay”. And if tomorrow never comes, you’ll have no regrets about today.

Six months have passed since I lost my mother-in-law and I have so many regrets………. She jst left without saying good bye or giving us chance to tell us what she meant to us. Had I known I had so little time with her……….. There were so many things left unsaid, so many things to learn from her…… because i always though I have all the time in world………………..

Friends · Quotes

Hold On

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Friends come and go,
but with a precious few you should hold on.
Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography and lifestyle,
because the older you get,
the more you need the people
who knew you when you were young.