That is what I call positive outlook and what I need on a Monday morning đ
Soul agreement and Soul Contracts – Honoring Our Soul Relationships
Yesterday I read this b’ful article and made so much sense to me.Below is the excerpt from the article (i will follow up with my interpretation in next post) :
“Soul Attractions”
One of the aspects of our life that is commonly affected most by change in perspective is our relationship to others. Rather than basing our relationships primarily on biological family connections or human personality attractions, we tend to be drawn to those with whom we have significant soul connections from past lifetimes, or from mutual experiences within other realms.
Oftentimes, we find that these “soul attractions” seem to be in conflict with our human life situation. For example, if we are married and we unexpectedly meet someone of the opposite sex with whom we sense a deep soul connection, and with whom we experience deep feeling of love, it quite likely will bring up human emotional issues, such as jealousy and insecurity, in our relationship with our spouse.
Or perhaps we may meet someone of the same sex with whom we may have shared deep connections in past lifetimes, and find ourselves confused by the depth of our love for such a person. Since we don’t always incarnate lifetime after lifetime in a body of the same sex, our soul connections tend to blur the lines of sexual orientation and sexual feelings.
Before we incarnate, either through the natural birth process or as a “walk-in,” we develop a life plan that will enable us to have human experiences which will assist our soul’s evolution. Within the context of this plan, we make agreements with other souls who will play important roles in our forthcoming life experience. After incarnation, our respective souls choreograph life events such that we will come into contact with each other at the appropriate time.
Finding a “Soul Agreement“
There are at least three primary reasons as to why we might choose to establish such a “soul agreement” with another soul. We may have been together in a past lifetime, and may have acted toward each other in a manner that was inappropriate. Consequently, there may be unbalanced residual emotional energies which need to be worked out and brought into balance in the context of human life experience. Such soul agreements are often referred to as “karmic” soul agreements.
Normally, our soul purpose cannot be accomplished solely by ourselves. Rather, it usually requires a “team.” So we typically establish soul agreements with others of our team, who, when we later meet up with them in human life, will work together with us in the accomplishment of our mutual soul mission.
When two souls who have deep soul connections with each other meet in human life, it creates an energetic “resonance” which helps to awaken a particular facet within each other’s soul essence. So, we may establish a soul agreement with someone in order to awaken, and bring into human expression a particular facet of our soul which up to that point in time may have been dormant.
Sometime this awakening process can take place virtually in an instant, by exchanging “light codes” through the eyes, or sometimes it may require more time, through exchanges of the heart. How do we know whether or not we have a soul agreement with a particular person? There are several clues.
First, there is often an unexplainable feeling of familiarity when we look into each other’s eyes. If the soul connection is especially deep, and if it involves a particularly significant soul agreement, there is usually a “freeze-frame” memory of the first moment we met that person.
In other words, as we later reflect back upon the first time we met a particular person, we may retain a clear “picture” in our mind of all of the circumstances of that moment where we physically were in respect to the other person, who else was present, and various other details of that first meeting.
Lastly, if someone keeps reappearing in our life, for no explainable reason, it is quite possible that we have a soul agreement with them.
Living Life with an Open Heart
In order to move into the fullness of our soul’s purpose, it is essential that we honor our soul agreements, at least the ones that are of the greatest significance. This implies that we must live life with an open heart, and that we be alert to the possible significance of each new person who comes into our life.
It also is important that, when we first meet someone, we look beyond the physical and personality aspects of the person, and tune into the essence of their soul. To do this, we must be willing to look deeply into each other’s eyes, and allow the natural energies to flow.
Finally, it is important that we create enough space within our existing relationships so that new people can come into our life in a meaningful way. When we first meet someone with whom we feel a significant connection, we are seldom able to perceive the full significance of that person in relationship to our life during our initial encounter. It often requires sharing time together, mutually exploring respective feelings and perceptions, before the deeper purpose reveals itself.
The concept of soul agreements, and their importance to our life, is relatively new territory for our human experience. We have much yet to learn especially in regard to integrating soul relationships into the context of our human lives.
As is the case in exploring any new territory, there are no “rights” or “wrongs,” there is only learning through experience. But isn’t that what life is all about? ?
Isn’t that Just cute……………..
Choices
âIt is the choices we make, Harry, that show who we truly are, far more than our abilities,â
said Albus Dumbledore to Harry Potter in JK Rowlingâs The Philosopherâs Stone.
People are inherently nice
Why do the people whom u thought were “thoughtless” and whom u were trying to avoid, turn around and do something very nice and thoughtful for you, making u feel so mean and bad???????????
People I can’t understand you. Stop confusing me đ
Experiences like these strength my conviction that people are inherently nice , so before rushing to judge them at first opportunity I get, I should wait and give them a chance.
One
I guess each of us, at some time, finds one person with whom we are compelled toward absolute honesty, one person whose good opinion of us becomes a substitute for the broader opinion of the world.
Living without Expectations
Can we be anytime truly free from expectations from everything around us? A deeper look around things and that is true, I have expectations from everything and everyone around me – my parents, siblings, husband, colleagues, teammates, myself and scary as it is even from inanimate things around me. Doesn’t I expect my stapler to work every time I use it, my phone to ring when somebody calls me, my car to start when I turn in the key and my refrigerator to cool the things I put inside it. I do expect my body to tell me when I am thirsty, hungry or cold. I expect my parents to love me to miss me and my mom to make yummy aloo parantas every time I visit them. I expect my employer to pay me regularly, my colleagues to show up on the weekly team meetings and to reply to the emails I send them. I do expect ………………
So are we ever free from expectations from people, things….. I guess never, but what I can do is to control my reaction when things or people do not react as per my expectations. Do I feel hurt or can I rationalise and accept it? Do I appreciate when people give me their time and help when I need it or I just take it for granted as if it was my right? I think things tend to get ugly when I fail to acknowledge and appreciate the good deeds of people (b’coz I simply expected them to behave in that manner) or when I react badly when they respond in different way (the one I had not expected). I have option to scream at stapler and throw it out in frustration or simply get a new one.
I can also control the extent of my expectations. I can control my expectations from people to be always there when I need them (let me face it – people do have life of their own) and to be genuinely grateful and appreciative when they do take time out to do something for me. Recently on my trip back to India on a family tragedy, my cousins and their wives were waiting for me at the airport – middle of night and all of them had to go to work tomorrow. I was genuinely grateful and appreciative of their gesture. Would I have reacted same had I expected them to be there? I think when I start expecting from people I start taking them for granted. I fail to appreciate them and then when they are sometime busy to react in manner I want them to I – become angry and hurt.
Well that is what I am trying to learn – to control my reactions and my expectations. But all said and done I still expect my stapler to work, my phone to ring…………………… đ
The Daffodil Principle
An E-mail Forward:
Several times my daughter had telephoned to say, âMother, you must come to see the daffodils before they are overâ. I wanted to go, but it was a two-hour drive from Laguna to Lake Arrowhead. âI will come next Tuesdayâ, I promised a little reluctantly on her third call. Next Tuesday dawned cold and rainy. Still, i had promised, and reluctantly i drove there. When i finally walked into Carolynâs house, i was welcomed by the joyful sounds of happy children. I delightedly hugged and greeted my grandchildren.
âForget the daffodils, Carolyn! The road is invisible in these clouds and fog, and there is nothing in the world except you and these children that i want to see badly enough to drive another inch!â… âBut first weâre going to see the daffodils. Itâs just a few blocksâ, Carolyn said. âIâll drive. Iâm used to thisâ…. After about 20 minutes, we turned onto a small gravel road and i saw a small church. On the far side of the church, i saw a hand-lettered sign with an arrow that read, âDaffodil Gardenâ. We got out of the car, each took a childâs hand, and i followed Carolyn down the path. Then, as we turned a corner, i looked up and gasped. Before me lay the most glorious sight.
It looked as though someone had taken a great vat of gold and poured it over the mountain peak and its surrounding slopes. The flowers were planted in majestic, swirling patterns, great ribbons and swaths of deep orange, creamy white, lemon yellow, salmon pink, saffron and butter yellow. Each different-coloured variety was planted in large groups so that it swirled and flowed like its own river with its own unique hue. There were five acres of flowers. âWho did this?â i asked Carolyn. âJust one womanâ, Carolyn answered. âShe lives on the property. Thatâs her homeâ. Carolyn pointed to a well-kept A-frame house, small and modestly sitting in the midst of all that glory. We walked up to the house. On the patio, we saw a poster. âAnswers to the Questions I Know You Are Askingâ, was the headline. The first answer was a simple one. â50,000 bulbsâ, it read. The second answer was, âOne at a time, by one woman. Two hands, two feet, and one brainâ. The third answer was, âBegan in 1958â. For me, that moment was a life-changing experience. I thought of this woman whom i had never met, who, more than 40 years before, had begun, one bulb at a time, to bring her vision of beauty and joy to an obscure mountaintop. Planting one bulb at a time, year after year, this unknown woman had forever changed the world in which she lived. One step at a time, she had created something of extraordinary magnificence, beauty, and inspiration.
The principle her daffodil garden taught is one of the greatest principles of celebration. âIt makes me sad in a wayâ, i admitted to Carolyn. âWhat might i have accomplished if i had thought of a wonderful goal 35 or 40 years ago and had worked away at it âone bulb at a timeâ through all those years? Just think what i might have been able to achieve!â
My daughter summed up the message of the day in her usual direct way. âStart tomorrowâ, she said. She was right. Itâs so pointless to think of the lost hours of yesterdays. The way to make learning a lesson of celebration instead of a cause for regret is to only ask, âHow can i put this to use today?â Use the Daffodil Principle.
Stop waiting…
Paradox of our times
Visit to Amish farmland
Last weekend we took day trip to Philadelphia. The highlight of the trip was the visit to Lancaster county seeing the lifestyle of the Amish community or the “Plain people” as they are commonly referred. 
I had heard about them but the extent of the renunciation of the modern technology was a revelation for me. I think what was astonishing to me — I agree there are lot of people in world, even back in India, which do not have access to electricity, or any other modern facility for that matter — but those people have no choice in that matter. It is simply because they don’t have access to all those. But here is this community, which is living in midst of all this and consciously making a decision – to not to use it.
the ideologies of the Amish people. What struck me most was when she was telling us about how Amish older folks are looked after by their kids, we all could see how wishful she sounded. She really was missing that her in life and I could have bet that she would have happily traded her life to be an Amish now. She made a comment that kind of stayed with me : “What we have gained on mobility from all modern technologies, we have lost on family love and values”.Some facts about them :
- The Amish consider style and fashion to be vain. They feel that flashy garments are meant to get one noticed, and that is not something that they desire.

- Amish women never wear any jewelery , not even on their wedding day.
- The Amish do not draw social security, join the Army, or allow any form of assistance from the government.
- Amish children only go to school through the 8th grade. All the grades attend together in a one-room schoolhouse.
- If you see an Amish man wearing a beard you can be certain he is married. A male member of the faith stays clean-shaven until he marries. And they do not have mustaches since the Amish associate mustaches with military personnel.
- Amish women never cut their hair.

- Generally, the Amish go without electricity, electronic entertainment (television, radio, video games, etc.), central heating or air conditioning systems and automobiles. While the Amish do not use electric power, there is nothing against using natural gas to power their water heaters, stoves, refrigerators and gas pressured lamps and lanterns.
- They also do not own cars but still use horses and buggies, but have no objections in riding in the vehicles of others.
- The Amish are Anabaptists. They believe that a person should make their own decision to become baptized and join the church as adults, rather than through infant baptism as is practiced in some religions.
- If an Amish child chooses not to become baptized, they are going through a period known as Rumspringa. Rumspringa, to the Amish, is regarded as the period in an adolescences life leading up to serious courtship, which is connected to permanent commitment to the Amish life and church.
- The Amish believe that having their picture taken is the same as bearing a graven image.
Since this is forbidden in the Bible, they don’t believe in being the subject of photographs. - Amish children do have toys. Small girls have rag dolls, which are made from cloth and do not have a face, as graven images are against their belief.
- Weddings take place in November and early December and usually on Tuesdays or Thursdays.
- They do not have formal church structures. Old Order church services are held every other Sunday at home. Families take turns hosting the service.


