Unrequited Love …  hmmmm isn’t that an oxymoron???  Can love ever be unrequited?  None of definitions of “Love” I have looked up for has any mention of any achievement, reward or  reciprocity of emotion. A pure emotion like love , how can it ever be unrequited?  And why should love be successful only if it is reciprocated?

Why have we never heard terms like unrequited anger or jealously?  If we are content with other emotions only being felt by us irrespective of our target feeling exact same emotion, then why not love? Then why does  emotion of love (which as per me is purest and highest of all)  becomes a source of anguish if the target is not feeling exact same emotion? Do we feel bad when we are angry and other person is not angry with us? Does our anger in that case diminishes or become a source of anguish for us?

If we love someone … it is already requited 🙂 

Today morning my FB wall had these 2 updates – both from different sources but the same message :

A random status update on FB with the a quote I simply liked prompted this thread :

Prejudice is a great time saver. You can form opinions without having to get the facts ………

Prejudices and biases – they create such a vicious circle that unless you do a conscious effort of recognizing your actions and thoughts and breaking away from them, you consistently keep on cementing them and keep creating a world of your own expectations, responses and reinforcements.
My prejudice and biases, predisposes me to expect a particular response from someone I am interacting. Now we all know that majority of people will respond to the way they are treated. Since my treatment or approach to someone is already influenced by   predisposed expectations from him/her, the response from that person would be most of times in line with my expectations – primarily because of my interpretation and also because the other person would not be bothered to correct my bias (be realistic .. who has time?). But the sad part is that this interpretation or response would do a positive reinforcement of my biased opinions which would nestle more deep within my mindset. And irony is anyone who would actually have time and inclination to clear me of my biases, – my intelligent mind will quickly label that person in the category of “Exception” and move ahead making no change to the prejudices deeply rooted in my mind. The complex network of predisposed notions, expectations, responses, habits and a instinct to cleanly label and categorize every experience/interaction in our life , never let us to break free of this vicious cycle!

“Everyone is a prisoner of his own experiences. No one can eliminate prejudices – just recognize them.”  – Edward R. Murrow

Recently I heard a beautiful soundtrack of movie Inkaar and for some reason the song has just stuck in my mind. I can listen to this back to back. The music is definitely good and reminds me of an not so recent song from movie Khoya Khoya Chand (the last track Swanand sang for Shantanu Moitra and Sudhir Mishra). But what attracted me more are the beautiful lyrics …. how true and profound.  The case of interpretations and misinterpretations of simple communication between two humans. How delicate is the thread of interpersonal communication and how the words and thoughts are easily misinterpreted and lose their context and intent. How the interpretation of words is so dependent on the settings and the frame of mind of the receiver and sender’s original intent is so easily lost …..
Baat sehmi sehmi si , teri aur thi chali  ………….. fisal gayi kyun
Maine barf si kahi, shola ban tujhe mili …………. badal gayi kyun
Mayno ka bhoj se, baat seedhi saadhi si ………… kuchal gayi kyun
Baat aandhiyan liye, hotho tak toh aayi thi …… thithak gayi kyun
Baat koi geet ban, hole gungunaye thi …………….baras gayi kyun
Baat reshmi si ek, sej pe bichayi thi…………………ulajh gayi kyun
I am not sure about others, but I know for sure that I have faced this situation multiple times. How the words are misinterpreted and lose their original intent. I tend to see world in my own perspective have this false sense of complex that people have responsibility to understand me and interpret mine intentions the way I meant it. Though I tend to forget that don’t I I every single time interpret the people’s actions and words as per my thought process (which is so colored by preconceived notions and biases). I guess food for thought for me ….. how do  overcome this handicap ….. and try to understand the context of words from the sender’s perspective…..

Inspirational and humbling 🙂

Why leave man to the sixth day — Paulo Coelho’s Blog:

‘via Blog this’

A group of wise men gathered to discuss the work of God; they wanted to know why he had left it to the sixth day to create man.

“He thought about first organizing the Universe well, so that we could have all the marvels available to us,” said one of them.

“First of all He wanted to run some tests on animals, so that He would not make the same mistakes with us,” argued another.

One wise Jew showed up at the meeting. They told him the theme of the discussion: “in your opinion, why did God leave it to the last day to create man?”

“Very simple,” commented the wise man. “So that when we were moved by pride, we would remember that even a simple mosquito enjoyed priority in the work of the Divine.”

#iCantBeTheOnlyPerson

Twitter’s yesterday’s trend – #iCantBeTheOnlyPerson stuck me as people’s way of celeberating commonality amongst a world which is always stressing on Uniqueness! People ‘s eagerness to share was a nice assurance on how lot of us think alike and share same interests. Few of them which I also do lot of times :

1. who puts the phone on charging and later realize that i forgot to switch the charger on
2. listens to same song back to back
3. Who opens the door of fridge every time just to see if anything new appeared..;)
4. who googles herself! :p
5. who loves window shopping when there is nothing else to do 😉
6. who pays all his income tax and feels pity at the potholes
7. can watch Friends every time
8. who hates coffee without sugar
9. wakes up middle of night, calculates the number of hours of sleep I can get 🙂
10. who loves caramel popcorn
11. to get up in the morning and check my phone before doing anything else !!
12. who stuffs her things in her wardrobe when uninvited guests arrive suddenly!
13.  who likes the smell of petrol..!!
14. who dont lock her lugguages while travelling
15. who thinks that Every phone should have the same charger..
16.  who checks time on cell phone instead of the watch on the wrist 😉
17. who presses the snooze button and ends up sleeping in an extra hour

Definition from Urban Dictaionary – “An enemy disguised as a friend.”

The lunatic is in my head

You raise the blade, you make the change

You re-arrange me ’till I’m sane

You lock the door … And throw away the key

There’s someone in my head but it’s not me.