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Only once in your life ………… Bob Marley

Bob Marley :
“Only once in your life, I truly believe you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell them things that you’ve never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more. You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you. When something wonderful happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your excitement. They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurting, or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself. Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful. There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only a quiet calmness when they are around. You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think of you because they love you for who you are. The things that seem insignificant to most people such as a note, song or walk become invaluable treasures kept safe in your heart to cherish forever. Memories of your childhood come back and are so clear and vivid it’s like being young again. Colours seem brighter and more brilliant. Laughter seems part of daily life where before it was infrequent or didn’t exist at all. A phone call or two during the day helps to get you through a long day’s work and always brings a smile to your face. In their presence, there’s no need for continuous conversation, but you find you’re quite content in just having them nearby. Things that never interested you before become fascinating because you know they are important to this person who is so special to you. You think of this person on every occasion and in everything you do. Simple things bring them to mind like a pale blue sky, gentle wind or even a storm cloud on the horizon. You open your heart knowing that there’s a chance it may be broken one day and in opening your heart, you experience a love and joy that you never dreamed possible. You find that being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure that’s so real it scares you. You find strength in knowing you have a true friend and possibly a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end. Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile. Your only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life.”
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Life…..

It is so difficult to accept yourself as a sideys in the life story of central characters of your story!

Hard fact … but true! Life evolves, changes…… every moment. If change is such inevitable then why does mind still craves for the past? Why isn’t theory of evolution and adjusting to change applicable to heart, mind & emotions????

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Shaken and Stirred

Life has been full of lot of twists and turns …. lot of events shake you – make you question the things you have taken for granted,  take away your comfort cushion, elevate you, help you evolve, bring new experiences …………
But very few events in the life really “Stir” you – shake the basic foundation of your identity, beliefs and experiences. 
Difference as per me – events that shake you – reaction/effect is more external – you get displaced , but stirred is when the internal churn happens, when you are compelled to question the basic fibers of your identity!

I can count the events that have stirred me, not sure whether to call these as blessings or curses but I definitely have come out a better  person! They have compelled me to evolve , actually learn &  imbibe the meanings of unconditional love and forgiving others. Well I guess forgiving is a wrong word – I actually learnt to lose this superiority complex that people are here to live their lives as per my expectations. They made me aware that everyone have their own journey and what they decide to do in their own lives is strictly THEIR OWN CHOICE … absolutely doesn’t matter any iota how closely entwined their lives are with me or if their choices would hurt me! That is purely MY OWN ISSUE!  That is my choice on how much I want to control others lives and how much secure I am in my own being that someone else’s actions/choices can never be any reflection on – WHO &  WHAT I AM!

But I think as true for any stirring process – it is difficult period… you have to resolve a lot of internal turmoil, a struggle between your mind & emotions and a roller-coaster of emotional turmoil. A lot of impurities surface out, it is complete murkiness till the things settle down. I have to deal with all the murky and dark emotions and believe me that is painful! Wish it could have been a easier process, but then I would have already reached that higher plane of spirituality and evolution. I am still struggling but has been quite an interesting struggle. It is really scary as well as interesting to face your inner demons and conquer them. Has its ups  downs – at times I feel truly free & liberated and other time I am deep in dumps ready to cry my eyes out …..

I always felt that I am destiny’s favorite child . So truly believe that every experience in life is for a reason – to make me a better person, to help me evolve – nudge me towards a higher goal… So no regrets …. BRING ON…..SHAKE & STIR me …………. I love the internal churn

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ME vs. me

 

Amazing quote by my dear hubby :

Life is a continuous struggle……between ME and me. The bigger one full of human values, worldly affairs and the conditioning we are born with always tries to beat down the logical small one which is also trying to evolve and challenge. In this transition, people who convert small “me” to bigger ME one day are the ones who fill themselves with love and happiness. Others die and the struggle is never over.

Harpal – Love you and your thoughts Smile

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Tryst with Homeopathy

 

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Being brought up in a family of “staunch” allopathic doctors , I have grown up with strong prejudice against homeopathy and am always skeptical about the effects (and side effects). My dad’s strong influence on my beliefs in this particular subject had spoiled me to a extent that I would never think of using homeopathic treatment and would in fact discourage others too!

That is going to be past history ………. had my first dose of homeopathic medicine today and was pleasantly surprised ………. the medicine was so sweet .. ha ha!

 

So I have signed up 3 year membership with Dr Batra Homeopathic Clinic (I for sure don’t do any half measures… would go the full extentSmile).

Paid them money upfront and would be now waiting patiently for results for my Hair Loss treatment. And who knows may become a convertee to Homeopathic line of treatment.  At least would be sure of no invasive procedures and scary injections!

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Jealousy

In continuation of yesterday's post and what an timely and apt quote to help me in my course correction….

“Jealousy is a disease, love is a healthy condition. The immature mind often mistakes one for the other, or assumes that the greater the love, the greater the jealousy – in fact, they are almost incompatible; one emotion hardly leaves room for the other”

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Can Love and Possessiveness be mutually exclusive?

Does Love and marriage give you right to control other person's freedom of thought and freedom of expression? Does marrying someone require you to forfeit for life your free will? Does the power someone gives us because they love us so much make us so conceited that we feel that we can (or rather need) to control other person's thoughts too?

 

Wasn't this very quality that attracted me in the first place – the way he can connect to other people so easily & effortlessly, his strong instincts that can within minutes of meeting someone can form a lasting bond, his free approach to everything around, his good instincts to help and cheer everyone he touches? So when did this conceited thought crept into me that now he is “married” to me – so for life he can only care like that only for “Me” (amongst females)?????? Can my thoughts become uglier than this? Who I am to control his thoughts and his instinctive behaviors and most important Why should I? It is something good he is doing – helping others. When has the gender of who is being helped become such an issue???????? I

 I for me who strongly believe that gender/race/religion don't change the person and humanity is much above everything. Can I get more hypocrite than this????????

 

Yesterday was a big wake up call for me. For me to take stock of kind of person I am becoming. I can't control such thoughts but I very well control my reaction. Why I am feeling bad? Since when I have become so shallow a person that I have started thinking I “should” OWN a person – his thoughts, his kindness, and his expressions. For God's sake he is not doing anything bad or illegal that I feel this is my moral responsibility for his own good. He is just being HIMSELF – the person I fell in love with!!!!!!!!!!

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