The last statement by Carrie Bradshaw in the final season of Sex & City
Before I open myself to accept love from others, I need to accept myself as I am and love and respect myself for being “me”. If I hate myself, how would I ever be able to accept that somebody else loves me? When I have low self esteem, I am either skeptical about other people’s interest in me or get flattered by it – both wrong reasons for getting into any relationship which is doomed from start. So before I expect people to love me for what I am , I need to know, understand and love the person I am. Self progress and improvements can only happen if I know who I am and what I want myself to be. If I change myself as per other’s expectations, eventually I will find myself to be stranger in my own body & soul….
Loving YOU doesn’t mean falling in love with only your physical beauty or your material success in life. It is about appreciating yourself and about accepting the person YOU ARE and the values YOU’VE chosen. Become conscious of your values, on your self esteem. Find out how much YOU love YOURSELF. Work on that instead of trying to please others. When you define the person you truly want to be, not based on what others expect, you can work on developing a real sense of self. When you have a loving relationship with yourself, and value who you are as a unique individual who’s worthy of love and happiness, it’s harder to settle in a relationship with somebody who isn’t right for you.
Reflections 
Very well put together….almost exactly what i think.Specially liked the part that “Falling in love with YOU means…. to appreciate the values YOU’VE chosen.”Its so true. I think coherence of values is more important than anything else, in a relationship. I remember having a discussion “Arranged vs Love Marriage” in my college where one of my prof made a point that the reason for higher success rate of arrange marriage is the fact that almost all the castes/tribes are inherently a type of value system and human being feels least threatened when its EGO(internal)-values matches that of external environment.