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Finding your tribe

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We are the sum of all people we have ever met; you change the tribe and the tribe changes you.

– Dirk Wittenborn

Finding your tribe – or a group of like-minded people – is an important part of your personal growth and development. Your tribe is a group of people who share your values, interests, and experiences, and who can provide you with the support, encouragement, and accountability you need to thrive. Here are a few reasons why finding your tribe is important for empaths, and how to connect with like-minded people:

  1. Your tribe can provide you with a sense of belonging and connection. As an empath, you may feel a strong need for connection and belonging, and your tribe can fulfill this need. It is important to feel like you belong and that you’re not alone nad are you’re part of a larger community. Your tribe can provide this kind of connection, and can help you feel like you’re part of something bigger than yourself. By finding your tribe, you can connect with people who understand you and who share your experiences. This can provide a sense of belonging and connection that can be comforting and reassuring.
    By surrounding yourself with people who understand and appreciate your unique perspective, you can feel less alone and more connected.
  2. Your tribe can provide support and encouragement. Pursuing your goals and making positive changes in your life can be challenging, and your tribe can provide the support and encouragement you need to stay motivated and committed. By sharing your struggles and accomplishments with your tribe, you can gain valuable insights and perspective, and can receive the support and encouragement you need to keep going.
  3. Your tribe can provide a safe space to express your emotions and experiences. As an empath, you may feel overwhelmed by your emotions at times. Your tribe can provide a safe space to express yourself and to process your emotions without judgment. This can be incredibly valuable and can help you manage your emotions more effectively.
  4. Your tribe can provide accountability. As an empath, you may struggle with staying accountable to yourself and your goals. Your tribe can help you stay accountable by providing regular check-ins, feedback, and encouragement. This can help you stay on track with your goals and can increase your chances of success.

But how do you go about finding your tribe? Here are a few suggestions:

  1. Look for online communities or forums that are focused on empathy and sensitive topics. These can be a great way to connect with others who share your experiences and perspectives.
  2. Attend workshops, retreats, or conferences that are focused on empathy and sensitive topics. These can be a great way to connect with others in person and to learn from experts in the field.
  3. Join a support group or therapy group. This can provide a safe and supportive space to connect with others who are also dealing with similar challenges.
  4. Reach out to friends and family who you trust and who understand your experiences. They may not be empaths themselves, but they can provide valuable support and connection.
  5. Be open and authentic in your interactions with others. This can help you attract like-minded people who are drawn to your authenticity and vulnerability.

Call it a clan, call it a network, call it a tribe, call it a family: Whatever you call it, whoever you are, you need one.”

– Jane Howard

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Insight · Life · Notes to Self

When I lost my voice

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It all started when I woke up one morning and noticed that my voice was hoarse and weak. I assumed it was just a cold or a minor sore throat, but as the day went on, my voice continued to deteriorate until I could barely speak above a whisper. I quickly realized that this was not just a minor inconvenience, it was a major problem.

I visited my doctor and found out that I had developed laryngitis, an inflammation of the larynx (voice box) that can cause loss of voice or hoarseness. My doctor advised me to rest my voice as much as possible and gave me some medication to help reduce the inflammation. For the next week, I was unable to speak and had to rely on text messaging, email, and other forms of written communication. I had to cancel several appointments and meetings because I couldn’t speak, and I felt like I was missing out on important conversations and opportunities.

But the most isolating part of this experience was the fact that it happened in a virtual world. We live in a time where most of our communication is done through phone calls, video conferences and virtual meetings. Not being able to speak in this environment made me feel like I was missing out on important conversations and opportunities. I felt like I was invisible, and it was a difficult feeling to shake.The frustration of not being able to speak was compounded by the fact that there was nothing I could do to fix it. I had to just wait for my voice to come back, and it felt like an eternity. But as the week went on, I started to see the silver lining. I learned to appreciate the power of written communication and the beauty of nonverbal cues. I also learned to be a better listener and to pay more attention to the people around me.

It was frustrating not being able to speak, but it also made me realize how much I rely on my voice and how important communication is in my daily life. It was a reminder that our voices are a gift and that we should cherish and protect them. The experience was a humbling one. I realized how much I took my voice for granted and how much it affected my daily life.

It made me appreciate the simple things, like being able to say “hello” or “thank you.”

In the end, my voice came back, but the experience taught me to take better care of my health. If you ever find yourself in a similar situation, remember that it’s important to seek medical attention and to be patient. And most importantly, appreciate the small things in life like your ability to speak and communicate.

Insight · Life · Quotes

Your passion is waiting for your courage to catch up

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Passions and interests are often held back by our fear or lack of confidence. Our passions and dreams are within reach, but it takes courage to pursue them. Having passion for something can be a powerful motivator, but it’s often accompanied by fear or self-doubt. It can be easy to let these negative emotions hold us back from pursuing what we truly want in life. However, by mustering the courage to take action, we can overcome these fears and take steps towards achieving our goals.

It’s important to remember that courage doesn’t mean being fearless. It’s natural to feel scared or uncertain when embarking on something new or challenging. Courage means taking action despite these fears and doubts. By doing so, we can tap into our passions and make progress towards the things that matter most to us.

Pursuing our passions can be scary, especially if we’re not sure if we’ll be successful or if we’re stepping out of our comfort zone. However, it’s important to remember that we’ll never know what we’re capable of unless we try. By embracing our passions and having the courage to pursue them, we can discover new talents and abilities, and potentially even achieve success in areas that we never thought possible.

So if you have a passion or interest that you’ve been hesitant to pursue, try to find the courage to take the first step.

Embrace your passions and pursue them with courage, even if you’re afraid or uncertain about the outcome.You never know where it might lead you………………………..

Insight · Life · Memories

Seven times have I despised my soul – Kahlil Gibran

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Excerpt from “Sand and Foam” from Kahlil Gibran:




Seven times have I despised my soul:
The first time when I saw her being meek that she might attain height.
The second time when I saw her limping before the crippled.
The third time when she was given to choose between the hard and the easy, and she chose the easy.
The fourth time when she committed a wrong, and comforted herself that others also commit wrong.
The fifth time when she forbore for weakness, and attributed her patience to strength.
The sixth time when she despised the ugliness of a face, and knew not that it was one of her own masks.
And the seventh time when she sang a song of praise, and deemed it a virtue.

Reading this made me retrospect about the times I have despised my soul. 

So here is my list (and I am sure the number would be much greater than 7 ) :
  1. When she shamelessly basked in the biased affection of my dad and didn’t give any thought about how my siblings may feel about it.
  2. When she was afraid to voice her opinion against the wrong, just because she didn’t want to be on the bad books of people who meant world to her.
  3. When she said hurtful words just to win an argument.
  4. When she forgot to thank God for all the blessings in her life and when she never missed any chance to complain to God about any thing bad in her life.
  5. When she was judgmental about people and forgot to look for same flaws in herself.
  6. When she knew about her weaknesses and still instead of working on that just let made a fool of herself.
  7. When she forgets to keep in touch with friends and family and just blames the hectic schedule.
  8. When she was too stubborn to express her real feelings because she didn’t want to be vulnerable.
  9. When she chose to just offer empty words of sympathy when somebody needed real help.
……. will keep on adding as and when I remember more instances.

Insight · Life · Love · People

Love YOURSELF

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“The most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you find someone to love the you YOU love, well, that’s just fabulous.”
The last statement by Carrie Bradshaw in the final season of Sex & City
Notes To Myself(24/09/08) inspired this post.

Before I open myself to accept love from others, I need to accept myself as I am and love and respect myself for being “me”. If I hate myself, how would I ever be able to accept that somebody else loves me? When I have low self esteem, I am either skeptical about other people’s interest in me or get flattered by it – both wrong reasons for getting into any relationship which is doomed from start. So before I expect people to love me for what I am , I need to know, understand and love the person I am. Self progress and improvements can only happen if I know who I am and what I want myself to be. If I change myself as per other’s expectations, eventually I will find myself to be stranger in my own body & soul….

Loving YOU doesn’t mean falling in love with only your physical beauty or your material success in life. It is about appreciating yourself and about accepting the person YOU ARE and the values YOU’VE chosen. Become conscious of your values, on your self esteem. Find out how much YOU love YOURSELF. Work on that instead of trying to please others. When you define the person you truly want to be, not based on what others expect, you can work on developing a real sense of self. When you have a loving relationship with yourself, and value who you are as a unique individual who’s worthy of love and happiness, it’s harder to settle in a relationship with somebody who isn’t right for you.

Insight

Push or Pull – which door would you choose

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There are 2 set of doors on our way to cafeteria. One that says “Push” and other “Pull”. It is interesting to note that most people rather prefer the “Push” doors. Granted with your loaded arms “Push” is much more convenient – but I am talking about entrance to cafeteria 🙂

Is this simple decision of choosing doors is made at rather subtle subconscious level. Is it not our psychology at play which instinctively tells us to push things away from us. Given a choice we would rather push things – people, relationships, emotions, changes, problems, new situations, …. away from us rather than pulling them into our life?

I have started playing this guessing game, based on my perception of the people which door would they rather choose. And I am mostly right about the people I know. people who are very confident and open mostly choose “Pull”. I am not right 100% of times but I am enjoying this guessing game 🙂