"I have found both freedom and safety in my madness; the freedom of loneliness and the safety from being understood, for those who understand us enslave something in us"
“Love myself ……………I do.
Not everything, but I love the good as well as the bad.
I love my crazy lifestyle, and I love my hard discipline.
I love my freedom of speech and the way my eyes get dark when I’m tired.
I love that I have learned to trust people with my heart, even if it will get broken.
I am proud of everything that I am and will become.”
Johnny Weir
Jiddu Krishnamurti
Have you not noticed that love is silence? It may be while holding the hand of another, or looking lovingly at a child, or taking in the beauty of an evening. Love has no past or future, and so it is with this extraordinary state of silence
Love is not blind – it sees more, not less. But because it sees more, it is willing to see less.
Before I open myself to accept love from others, I need to accept myself as I am and love and respect myself for being “me”. If I hate myself, how would I ever be able to accept that somebody else loves me? When I have low self esteem, I am either skeptical about other people’s interest in me or get flattered by it – both wrong reasons for getting into any relationship which is doomed from start. So before I expect people to love me for what I am , I need to know, understand and love the person I am. Self progress and improvements can only happen if I know who I am and what I want myself to be. If I change myself as per other’s expectations, eventually I will find myself to be stranger in my own body & soul….
Loving YOU doesn’t mean falling in love with only your physical beauty or your material success in life. It is about appreciating yourself and about accepting the person YOU ARE and the values YOU’VE chosen. Become conscious of your values, on your self esteem. Find out how much YOU love YOURSELF. Work on that instead of trying to please others. When you define the person you truly want to be, not based on what others expect, you can work on developing a real sense of self. When you have a loving relationship with yourself, and value who you are as a unique individual who’s worthy of love and happiness, it’s harder to settle in a relationship with somebody who isn’t right for you.
If I knew it would be the last time that I’d see you fall asleep,
I would tuck you in more tightly and pray the Lord, your soul to keep.
If I knew it would be the last time that I see you walk out the door,
I would give you a hug and kiss and call you back for one more.
If I knew it would be the last time I’d hear your voice lifted up in praise,
I would video tape each action and word, so I could play them back day after day.
If I knew it would be the last time,
I could spare an extra minute or twoto stop and say “I love you,” instead of assuming, you would KNOW I do.
If I knew it would be the last time I would be there to share your day,
well, I’m sure you’ll have so many more, so I can let just this one slip away.
For surely there’s always tomorrow to make up for an oversight,
and we always get a second chance to make everything right.
There will always be another day to say our “I love you’s”,
And certainly there’s another chance to say our “Anything I can do’s?”
But just in case I might be wrong and today is all I get,
I’d like to say how much I love you and I hope we never forget,
Tomorrow is not promised to anyone, young or old alike,
And today may be the last chance you get to hold your loved one tight.
So if you’re waiting for tomorrow, why not do it today? For if tomorrow never comes, you’ll surely regret the day, that you didn’t take that extra time for a smile, a hug, or a kiss and you were too busy to grant someone, what turned out to be their one last wish.
So hold your loved ones close today, whisper in their ear, Tell them how much you love them and that you’ll always hold them dear,
Take time to say “I’m sorry,” “please forgive me,” “thank you” or “it’s okay”. And if tomorrow never comes, you’ll have no regrets about today.
Six months have passed since I lost my mother-in-law and I have so many regrets………. She jst left without saying good bye or giving us chance to tell us what she meant to us. Had I known I had so little time with her……….. There were so many things left unsaid, so many things to learn from her…… because i always though I have all the time in world………………..
I guess each of us, at some time, finds one person with whom we are compelled toward absolute honesty, one person whose good opinion of us becomes a substitute for the broader opinion of the world.
Yesterday I was talking to my friend when she quoted this – “Love is not an emotion but a decision”. So true … Isn’t it.
That gave a whole new perspective to this word/relation. Yep that is true Love is a decision that you take. When you “decide” to love somebody you make an effort to understand him, accept him, let him see your true self and willing to go that extra mile for him. Since it is a decision you try to work it out to make it a success. And without all these efforts not even the greatest emotions can survive.
As life moves on people change, circumstances change, likes/dislikes change … The same things you were crazy abt yesterday may not sound at all appealing today. When I was growing up I loved chocolate ice cream, today I don’t want to have even one scoop of it. In university life – days without (atleast 10 cups of) tea were unthinkable, today I drink it only if I have to, initial years of career , I couldn’t survive without my cuppa of coffee, today I can’t even stand taste of it. Bottom line —I am not same person I was … I am changing continuously and so are people around me.
So I am sure in this ever changing world, to make sure that this relation doesn’t change requires a hell lot of effort. Had love only been an emotion, couples would fall apart fairly easily, but nope its an decision that you take to love and cherish each other. Since we have made a conscious decision to love each other, we keep on working on that decision.
Few more quotes about love :
-“You don’t love someone for their looks, or their clothes, or for their fancy car, but because they sing a song only you can hear.”
-“You don’t marry someone you can live with – you marry the person who you cannot live without.”
-“I love you not because of who you are, but because of who I am when I am with you.”
Reflections 